The Power of Appreciation (seduction 101)
By Morgana Rae A
”Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.” William Shakespeare
First the data: John M. Gottman, PhD, the country’s foremost relationship expert, found that what set apart marriages that succeeded (as opposed to the 67% of first marriages that ended in divorce) was a magic ratio of 5:1 positive to negative interactions. He found that even the smallest gestures counted–a smile, a pat, a “thank you.” This magic ratio isn’t confined to marriage. The same principle applies to all relationships.*
Here’s my favorite tool for improve the ratio: Appreciation Loops. You can use them any time you like, in any relationship, without dependence on the moods or actions of your partner. You can feel a shift in the dynamic immediately.
Appreciation loops go like this: Take a moment to say to your partner, “What I appreciate about you is…” and fill in the end of the sentence. Honesty is crucial. Try this without planning or even knowing where your sentence is going to end. See what comes up.
The magic of this practice lies in its independence from the other person’s action. Your appreciation is not contingent on your partner’s behavior. You are not saying “I would appreciate you if…” Nothing is more powerful than not trying to change the other.
Instead, appreciation works like a railroad switch for when you’re going down the wrong track: “We interrupt this regularly scheduled unhappiness to focus on the positive!”
Notice how challenging this can be in the middle of a fight. What becomes possible when you face your partner and say “What I appreciate about you is…”? When you change your focus to the positive, your world changes.
Using this tool when the relationship is already thriving is like building a bank account to draw on later.
“Beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing there’s a field. Will you meet me there?”
Rumi
I challenge you to try this formula on three relationships this month:
the relationship that’s most important to you at this moment,
the relationship that needs it the most right now,
and the relationship that needs it the least.
Share your discoveries with me at http://www.howtobeamoneymagnet.com
*This practice is not intended to “fix” a toxic relationship. Any relationship in which violence, drug abuse, or mental health problems are involved needs assistance from appropriate professionals.
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Morgana Rae, an internationally acclaimed expert on wealth manifestation, is the owner of Charmed Life Coaching, a successful life and business coaching company that guides entrepreneurs to attract more than they chase, market effectively and inexpensively, and to RADICALLY change their Relationship with Money. Grab your FREE MONEY MAGNET MP3 at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com. Contact Morgana at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com.
Does A Break Up With Your Loved One Have You Confused?
By Kathy Ascanio
There are few things in life more difficult than having a relationship go wrong, a relationship that you really want to work. The destruction is not something you can explain to friends, family and loved ones. It just overcomes everything in your life.
The saying little black cloud following you around really is an understatement. It is more like a large thunderstorm. Your energy level has gone to zip and your eyes are constantly red and puffy from the lack of being able to control the tears. There is an ache in your stomach. Either you are eating everything in site or you can’t stand the sight of food. Yes, I have been there.
I know it is harder than anything you have ever done, but you must pick yourself up and get focused. It is time to make a decision.
Are you asking yourself, should I get back with my ex? Do you want the relationship back? This is going to take some deep thought. You must weigh all the good and bad. Make a list. On one side of the paper are all the pros. Everything you miss about him/her. Items that you loved about your relationship. On the other side of the paper, list all the negative items. Be truthful with yourself. What drove you crazy? What could you do without in another relationship? Now you have a good place to start. Are you going to let the relationship go OR are you going to get busy and fight?
Sitting on the coach with you tissues is not going to get him/her back. If your decision is to repair this relationship, the time is now. Are you ready to create a clean slate and a second chance? Are you ready to get you ex back? I know you may think it is hopeless, but you must try. Couples break up and make up every day. You just need some help in the “getting back together” department! Just think, if you have made the decision to make a Positive move in the right direction, now is the time to follow through.
Would you like a little assistance on what to do and when to do it? If you are seriously looking to win back your ex, I have found something that will help guide you, it is like being handed “the recipe” for love!
Because not only will you be able to get your lover back, you also will be much better equipped to KEEP THEM long, long into the future… Isn’t that great news?
Even though your situation may seem to be impossible, it is very much Possible!
Learn how to get your head on straight, see if they still care, get over an affair (if applicable) and the steps to get you back tucked in their arms.
Are you ready to relive your romance and have your loved one picking up the phone and calling you again? Transform your situation!
The techniques, principals and advice you will receive, have assisted hundreds of men and women just like you win back the mind, heart and soul of their loved one.
I sincerely wish the very best to you and planning for your very happy future.
http://www.HowToGetYourExBackXXOO.com
Your Insight To Seductive Dreams And What They Reveal
What Are Your Choices Concerning Adult Toys
By Rhonda Mitchel
You walk into the store selling adult toys. You are fairly sure that no one saw you come in, but as open as people are these days, you are not sure it even matters. You might be using your toy alone, and you might be using it with a partner. Either way, your adult toy purchase is certain to give you plenty of pleasure down the line. The toys on the shelves you browse will come in every shape, size, color, and material imaginable. If you do not think there is a toy out there that will keep you happy, you are completely mistaken.
With hundreds of toys to choose from, how on earth can a person decide what they need? First thing is to think about what the toy you are buying is for. If you are looking at a toy for anal, you should probably pick one up specifically designed to fit your anus. Not doing so can be very painful, no matter what gender you are. Some models are more versatile than others, so start with something plain and work your way up. Remember, you want to make sure you body can handle the new sensation before you pull out all the stops.
On another shelf you will find toys just for the clitoris. The sensitive little nub is greedy and likes its own stimulation. Most of the toys you see here will vibrate, meaning they need batteries or will plug into the wall. These are a great gift idea for that special someone if you are looking to add to your bedroom fun. If you are just looking for something to take you over the top in your self loving, make sure it is a toy built to use alone. Some toys have complicated remotes and buttons that might not work by yourself. If you are looking for your partner, make sure to pick put something that is made for two.
The next thing you are going to see in this store full of adult toys are the vaginal toys. This is where you will find the greatest variation in models and features. Size is the first thing you will notice, and models range from very tiny to superhuman size. Models will come in the shape of real male genetalia, in the shape of cute cartoon animals, or as simple cigar shaped phallic toys. Materials vary a lot here, and you want to be sure of what you are getting. Make sure the toy does not say that it is only for novelty use. Medical grade silicone, most hard plastics, rubbers labeled as phthalate free, pyrex, and steel toys are all safe.
Rhonda Mitchel is a writer and you can visit her marital aids site and learn about how vibrators can enhanse your marriage.
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