I Discriminate and So Do You! (seduction 101)

March 4th, 2010 admin Posted in relationships |

By Harrold Carter

Everyone is prejudiced in some way. If two people offered to babysit my children and one was a known sex offender, I would choose the other with little thought. This is discrimination, no question. But it would be one that any loving parent would make. If someone asked me to go to a bar, I would refuse. I’m prejudiced against the atmosphere and influence that a bar has.

Since we all have these prejudices, we need to govern them. It is the governing of our bias and prejudices that is so important in our relationships and to function correctly in society.

Here are two principles that you may want to consider in governing your prejudices and discrimination.

DISCRIMINATE ABOUT SOMEONE’S INFLUENCE NOT THEIR PERSONALITY

Using the illustration of the sex offender, it isn’t the personality that I discriminate against, but rather the influence and values such an individual will have in my family.

Long ago, I worked in a factory near Chicago. Some of my coworkers there once asked me to go the bar with them. I refused. Not because I didn’t like them, or thought they were evil and wicked. I refused because of the influence such a place would have on me. In the work environment, we got along famously. I just couldn’t go with them to the bar.

In dealing with people and relationships, judge it by the influence on you and those around you. Don’t judge personalities. A man in Bible College rubbed me the wrong way with his personality. For a solid year, I discriminated against him due to this one thing that he had done. Eventually, we were forced to work together and became good friends. This could have happened a lot sooner if I hadn’t discriminated against his personality.

Values will often determine the influence. Since I pastor a Church, I won’t ever hire an atheist to fulfill a Church position. Our value systems will be so different that it will build a tense and uncomfortable working environment.

DISCRIMINATE ABOUT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY NOT YOUR ASSISTANCE

I must make many of my decisions based on my position as a Pastor, as a husband, as a Christian, and as a father. These decisions are sometimes discriminatory in nature. I have certain responsibilities and duties that these positions demand I see to.

I won’t be alone with a woman unless it is my wife. That is discrimination and prejudice. But then I married one particular woman and made certain vows and promises to her. These responsibilities mean that I will sometimes discriminate in order to fulfill my duties.

An ambassador must seek the best interests of the country he represents. This is his responsibility. His prejudices lie with his home country. This is the way it ought to be. He will seek to get the best circumstances in a negotiation as he can. It is not his job to be fair. I don’t seek to be fair in my time with other women or other children. I have responsibilities to my own.

But, to refuse aid and assistance to someone just because you don’t like them is wrong. I don’t look at someone and judge if they are worthy of my aid or care. God said to love our enemies.

If someone asks me for money to help with a need, I don’t determine if I will or won’t help based on the asker. Rather, I will look to see if by doing so, I will be unable to fulfill a responsibility. If the amount asked for will prevent me from caring for my family, I may refuse. However, I don’t make my determination on who asks, or how they look, or if they can return the favor or not.

An employer may have to chose the most capable person for a job and discriminate against those less able. He has a responsibility to his company and mission. He shouldn’t make that decision based on the person’s skin color or other factor that does not impair that persons’ ability to do the required job.

As a Pastor, I may not hire an atheist because his values would impair his ability to work with me in a ministry dedicated to God, but I would stop and help him change a tire or give him food when he is hungry.

Love ought to be indiscriminate.

Harrold Carter is a well published author in diet, health, and fitness but also writes on topics such as double stroller and sports.

Five Games To Play At Home As A Couple

By Chris LeRoy

Even couples with a steamy relationship can appreciate playing games together. Enjoying a game as a couple allows for a bit more imagination to be used to spice things up and gives you the chance to fill a few fantasies. You know they always say “Couples that play together, stay together!” Below are a few games you can play at home as a couple for an extra special evening.

1. Truth or Dare Not only does this game allow you to learn a few deep dark secrets about your partner, you also get the opportunity to dare them to do whatever you want them to do. No one can possibly turn down a dare!

2. Strip Poker Actually, it doesn’t have to be limited to just poker. Any game can be tweaked a bit to be a strip game! Can’t pay for that hotel you landed on playing Monopoly? Guess you’ll have to take off clothes. Poker is the funnest and easiest game to play though.

3. Adult Dice These special lover’s dice have a bit more then just numbers on them! They range from a bit daring to downright naughty, exploring levels of playful, romantic combinations. Chances are you won’t role the same thing twice but, of course, it’s always nice if you do!

4. Sex Game There are sex games available either online or in certain boutiques that are available and a whole lot of fun for any couple to play together. You may have to perform favors, take part in role playing, etc. These are always fun to pack in the suitcase to take with on vacation too!

5. Role Playing Nothing can beat role playing as a couple. Of course it’s always fun to surprise your partner with a costume or be spontaneous but not everyone is naturally good with spur of the moment ideas. You can keep a jar with rolled up pieces of paper in it with ideas written on that you can draw from to decide what your role playing game is going to be. You can make this a weekly game or just draw all of the papers with ideas in one long wild night. It’s always a good time to keep a few props handy like handcuffs for the police officer, glasses for the librarian and perhaps a sexy french maid costume too. The more props and outfits you add to your collection, the hotter your game can become.

It is important that you and your partner don’t get “stuck in a rut” of doing the same thing every time you’re together. You don’t have to play games of course all of the time but they add some spice in your life and allow you to explore and grow together as a couple.

Lingerie is a great item to include when looking to play fun games at home as a couple. Alternatively you could even try a costume, like a French Maid Costumes to spice up the fun.

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