Seductive Dream

By Lo Brow

 In relationships, just as in every other aspect of life, the spirit and attitude with which you do things is at least as important as your actual actions. Embrace and incorporate these powerful values, and you will start living with more integrity, honesty, compassion and enthusiasm. This, in turn, will breathe new life into your relationship.

Own your own relationship.

You are fully accountable for your relationship. You can never again believe you’re a martyr suffering in your relationship because of an unworthy partner. Only when you stop seeing yourself as a victim will you start to see yourself as a fully competent and potent force in your relationship.

Accept the risk of vulnerability.

Do not let fear paralyze your life. Wanting, reaching out and letting yourself hope makes you vulnerable. At least by putting yourself on the line, you have the chance of getting what you want, as opposed to hurting with no chance of getting what you want. Not to venture is to lose yourself.

Accept your partner.

If your partner experiences in you the spirit of acceptance, then it is most likely that he/she will find you approachable. Two partners who are moving toward each other, rather than both trying to seek safety from pain, have a dramatically improved chance of reconciliation.

Focus on friendship.

You have to take a step back from the problems and pain of your intimate interactions, and focus on your partner’s positive qualities. Turn back the clock and recall what it was that started the friendship that matured into an intimate relationship.

Promote your partner’s self-esteem.

You must bring the spirit of acceptance into affirmative, interactive action. Find the courage and creativity to promote and protect your partner’s self-esteem, even when you feel compelled to be critical. By using the value of self-esteem, you provide a much more nurturing atmosphere, one your partner will not want to abandon.

Aim your frustrations in the right direction.

Work at sorting out the causes of your frustration, and resist the impulsive temptation to pick at your partner. Once you start seeing that the negative things you perceive in your partner are often things you see in yourself, you will literally alter the nature of your interactions with your partner.

Be up front and forthright.

Nothing can be more frustrating than what is referred to as an incongruent communication, where an individual says one thing yet indicates something dramatically different with his or her nonverbal conduct. Strive to express your feelings in a mature and responsible way. By being honest about your emotions, you base your relationship upon integrity rather than lies and deception.

Make yourself happy instead of right.

Start evaluating the things you do in your relationship based on whether those thoughts, feelings and actions are working. For example, you don’t have to prove over and over that you know what you’re talking about more than your partner. Instead, choose a different emotion such as tolerance, understanding or compassion that does not escalate hostility in your relationship. By deciding to be happy rather than right, you will be receptive to your partner’s attempts to de-escalate hostility and return to civil interactions.

Allow your relationship to transcend turmoil.

Rough times and arguments happen, and one way or another, they are going to impact the relationship. You must vow to no longer use threats as a lever to manipulate and control your partner. By doing so, you are setting a clear limit on the places a spirited discussion with your partner will not go.

Put motion into your emotion.

You must turn the concept of love into a proactive behavior. Don’t be so consumed with negative messages that your expectations are low. You must require yourself and your relationship to truly be better.

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Your Insight To Seductive Dreams And What They Reveal

The Law Of Attraction and Feng Shui In The Bedroom
By Prabhat saini

 Take a good look at your bedroom as it is now. Is your bedroom welcoming to new partners? Does your bedroom suggest that you are open to sharing your life? Is your bedroom depressing? No one is going to want to spend time in your bedroom with you if it is not pleasant. Use these simple strategies to encourage loving and healthy relationships:

* How big is your bed? This is an obvious, but often overlooked factor. Is your bed big enough to comfortably accommodate another? A tiny bed is telling others that you are not available emotionally to share your life. Make sure that your bed is big enough for you and your new soul mate. If you need to purchase a new bed, make sure that when you are selecting and assembling it that you are already envisioning the pleasant times you will be having in the bed with your new lover. It is important that you follow through with the thoughts as well as the actions. If you say to yourself “What’s the use of having a big bed, I’ll never find anyone to share it” then guess what? You won’t. By thinking positive thoughts you are attracting positive actions.

* Bed linen. No one will want to share your bed if the linen is old, dirty and not fresh. Purchase new linen in patterns and colors that appeal to the romantic or sensual side of yourself. Picture you and your dream date in your bed together when you are making up your new bed.

* Ventilation. Good bedroom Feng Shui states that you need good ventilation. Keep a window ajar for fresh air. This also makes for excellent health. No one wants to be breathing in stale fumes.

* TV. Now a big TV in pride of place may have been comforting in your single days. However, that is all going to change and you need to be able to indicate to your dates that you will be concentrating on them in the bedroom and not the TV. Hide the TV in a cabinet, or move it to the spare room.

* Computer. Your bedroom is not for working or surfing the net. It is for sleeping and spending time with your new soul mate. Move the computer someplace else. Like the TV, it sends bad signals to potential lovers.

* Workout equipment. It is not considered good Feng Shui to have your workout equipment in your bedroom. If you are space challenged, store it in your garage, but don’t keep it in the bedroom.

* Illumination. It is important to have several levels of illumination in your bedroom. Replace your light switch with a dimmer so that you have better control of your lighting. Various scenarios require different lighting to create the correct ambiance. When replacing the switch, visualize all the different activities that will soon be happening in this room.

* Color. The color of your bedroom is important. If you are able to repaint do so. Red is the color of passion. Perhaps you can have a feature wall, replace the curtains, or even set up a red mosquito net.

* Artwork. Any artwork depicting depressing, angry or lonely scenes should be banished immediately. What sort of message are you sending out? What sort of greeting are you giving yourself when you wake up every morning? Select artwork that is more romantic or cheerful.

* Candles. Candles are considered the best from of illumination for good Feng Shui. It doesn’t hurt that most couples also find them highly romantic. Candles are available in a huge variety of perfumes, select ones that are romantically scented. Candles that are natural and contain no toxic substances are best. It goes without saying that you shouldn’t leave burning candles unattended or fall asleep with them still flickering.

Combining Feng Shui and the law of attraction in your bedroom can have amazing results on your dating success. It is important that you just don’t replace unhealthy items, but that you also visualize positive occurrences while doing so. Until your soul mate comes along, keep thinking about all the pleasurable activities that you will be able to enjoy with your new love. For more information on the law of attraction and how it can improve your life and dating …………….

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